Are you invited to an Indian wedding and don't know the rules? I wrote this article after receiving the invitation, for me and my family, to the wedding of Agraj and Kala, a Hindu couple to whom I made the wedding last August.
What should I wear to a Hindu wedding?
It's common for guests to wear traditional Indian clothes, such as saris or lenghas for women and long-sleeved tunics and pants for men. Remember that women should have their shoulders, legs, and occasionally arms covered. Men should wear long sleeves and long pants. Both men and women need to bring something to cover their heads during the ceremony. Bold, vibrant colors are heavily encouraged, but be sure to stay away from white (associated with funerals), black (considered unlucky), and red (the color the bride wears).
How long is a Hindu wedding?
The events of a Hindu wedding normally take place over the span of three days with different events taking place each day. The main ceremony and reception on the third day as well as the sangeet during the second day are attended by most of the guests. The Ganesh Pooja ceremony that commences the wedding events on the first day is usually an intimate event with only close family in attendance.
How big is a Hindu wedding?
An intimate Hindu wedding can consist of an average of 150 to 200 guests. They usually invite not only friends and family but, at times, the entire community from hometown.
Will the newlyweds kiss?
Traditionally, there is no kiss at the end of a Hindu wedding ceremony as a result of the predominantly conservative culture. However, this varies greatly on the couples themselves as well as their families.
Will there be alcohol?
It's important for attendees to know that there is no alcohol served or brought to the Hindu wedding ceremony. While traditionally the wedding reception is also alcohol-free, many modern-day couples and families are breaking away from this.
What about gifts?
Gifts are usually not brought to a ceremony, only monetary gift would be given in an envelope at the wedding reception.